Will Truman: Why do I have to lead the fight? What, every time somebody says something remotely antigay, I have to jump in? I've marched. I've written the checks. I've made the calls. But every time you think you can exhale and have your big gay party, somebody tells you they won't bake your cake. I'm not being defeatist. I just don't want to have to defend who I am ALL the time. I want a day off.